“ As long as you feel pain, you’re still alive. As long as you make mistakes, you’re still human. And as long as you keep trying, there’s still hope.”
I would love you to share your stories of hope.
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Alero's Thrivng Blog - Psychology of cancer survivors
Psychology of cancer survivors
During my cancer journey I had several overwhelming uncontrollable worries and fears.
The fear of dying and not seeing my only child and son turn 21. The fear of losing my memory during my chemotherapy sessions and developing chemo brain.
The fear of not being financially independent and having to depend on the generosity of the welfare state, family and friends.
Each fear was so real to me. Of all the fears and worries, only one really happened and that was being financially dependent on the welfare state and others for their generosity.
In my book ‘My Cancer Has Many Faces’ I detail how difficult that financial journey was for me. It took me to the depths of despair, to dark places I would rather not remember. However, I picked myself up and began to repair the financial damage that had been created whilst I was not in a position to earn a living.
How many times have we heard the saying ‘money is not everything? Whilst, this may sound true, how come the most important aspects of our lives and human survival namely health, food and shelter are all governed by money?
So who came up with the brilliant saying money is not everything when a cancer diagnosis has made sufferers and their families bankrupt or financially lacking in order to pay for treatment or just stay home to recover?
Can you tell my our greatest fear and how you have been able to overcome?
In my last blog I talked about my fear or worry of not being financially independent after a cancer diagnosis, treatment and recovery.
It has led me to discuss the meaning of paid work and being/becoming an entrepreneur. Whilst being financially independent is a nice place to be, what compromises do we have to make or are acceptable without affecting our mental and physical health?
After my cancer diagnosis treatment and recovery, I changed as a person. My values changed. My outlook about life changed. I became extremely passionate about helping cancer survivors / carers or anyone remotely concerned or connected to cancer.
I stated volunteering for a number of years, until, I began to have volunteer fatigue. How could I be volunteering, when I could not keep up with paying my bills?
I had to revert to what work I knew. Bills had to be paid. It was a no brainer.
Reinventing myself full time had to become a hobby in the first instance. It occurred to me, the process of reinventing oneself and following one's passion is not as easy as one thinks. It can become a silent challenge.
I would love to hear from you if you have been able to make the transition from being a paid employee to becoming self-employed entrepreneur. Or if you have tried, but, have had to return to being a paid employee.
Has this been the case for you?
Thriving Beyond Cancer
One of the questions I get frequently asked “why have I decided to focus on thriving beyond cancer?”
After I was diagnosed with cancer, after treatment, and life returning to some form on normalcy, I began looking for the true meaning of normalcy. What would true normalcy look like for me? My journey robbed me of virtually everything I once knew, of everything I thought I was and everything I owned.
However, I slowly began to rebuild a new life to a certain extent. I had to start from rock bottom, shedding some of my old perceptions about who I was, I had to give up my old dreams in order to leave room for new dreams.
Slowly my life began to take a new form, in my thoughts, words and deeds.
Employment, I had to start from bottom up taking severe pay cuts, just in order to get back into the work place. I took up a lot of voluntary work.
Spiritually, I regained my faith to a place that I had never experienced before.
Emotionally, I began to get stronger and less fragile, accepting and embracing my survivorship. As the years rolled by, I realized that my foundation was getting stronger and stronger. I was doing better in all aspects of my life,
At some point, I realized that I had begun to thrive and was no longer just surviving cancer.
Has this been the case for you? Please feel free to let me know your experience.
Alero's thriving blog
Hello, welcome to my blog,
I'm really excited to have you share some of my experiences and hopefully they will be of help to you as this is now my passion.
Along the way I will always encourage you to give me some feedback as it helps me reach others with unique needs as we all do. I know first hand that it's not easy going through on your own. One of the most important lessons I learnt is to share. I've found that "Those who thrive are those who share", so feel free to jump right in and let the "thriving begin'.
Dec 2018 - Thriving Beyond Cancer
Jan 2019 - Reinvention
Feb 2019 - Psychology of cancer survivors